Monday, October 10, 2016

HBO's New Series "Divorce"

If you watched HBO's new series "Divorce" that debuted last night, you can see how NOT to move forward in a divorce. If it goes the way the husband says, the children will be destroyed, as well as whatever assets the family has. Wife made some significant mistakes but her idea of divorcing amicably was, at least, the right way to think about it.

Sometimes it's best to let the dust settle before starting your divorce. Whether you're going to wait or start your divorce right away, come and learn the options you have to get through it with the least amount of destruction.

Call Amicable Divorce Services at 626-351-1200 to schedule your free initial consultation.

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

How Can We Demonstrate Integrity in Our Divorce Case?

One thing that we see is that spouses demonstrate a much higher level of integrity in their divorce when they proceed amicably and not through the family court system. Amicable spouses are far more transparent and cooperative. In court, spouses' lawyers share less information with each the other and frequently spin the truth. When the spouses see their lawyers holding back information, the spouses are encouraged to do the same. This behavior drives up the cost of a divorce, tears apart the spouses' trust of each other (which harms co-parenting efforts down the line), and takes much longer to reach the end of the divorce.

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Questions to Ask When You and Your Spouse Interview Divorce Mediators

It's important to know which mediators are peacemakers and which ones are mostly litigators. Some lawyers go to court about 90% of the time and rarely act as mediators. Maybe you and your spouse want a mediator who goes to court. Or maybe you prefer a mediator who is committed to being a peacemaker.

Some divorce lawyers advertise as mediators when mediation is only a small fraction of their practice. That's fine, but if you want a mediator who is committed to peacemaking, ask the mediators that you and your spouse interview: "In your practice, what is the percentage of the cases you handle that are mediated without a single court appearance and what percentage of your cases have court appearances?" Also ask: "How often do you attend mediation trainings and when was your last mediation training?" 

To find out about our mediation services, call Amicable Divorce Services at 626-351-1200.

Friday, August 26, 2016

When Do Couples Need to Come to an Initial Consultation Together?

Remember, if you and your spouse are considering mediation, make sure you both come to the initial consultation together. 

When one spouse comes in alone and is educated on the divorce process, she or he usually asks if Leslie can mediate for the couple. Usually the answer is, "No."   Typically the other spouse is going to feel that the mediator is not going to be neutral and unbiased after one spouse comes in alone and possibly gave her/his "side of the story." This happens a lot because folks don't realize the consequence of not coming in together.

In order to maintain her neutrality, both spouses really need to come in together to meet Leslie and be educated.

To call and schedule an initial consultation, call 626-351-1200.

Monday, August 22, 2016

Financial Disclosure Documents Mandatory in All California Divorces

Remember, if you are divorcing in California, you are required by Family Code, Section 2104 to serve a completed packet of financial documents called a Preliminary Declaration of Disclosure and also a Final Declaration of Disclosure.

Some of these documents are filed with the court and some are not.

We help ensure that these documents are completed properly.

Call Amicable Divorce Services at 626-351-1200

Friday, August 19, 2016

Empty Promises of Court Outcomes

There are some attorneys who will tell their clients and potential clients that she or he can get them better results in court than through settlement. Please - - if any attorney ever tells you that they can do better for you in court, ask them to put that in writing and sign it.

This doesn't mean that there aren't spouses who refuse to reach a reasonable settlement. There are actually lots of those. But you don't know if the other side is unreasonable or not unless you tried mediation or the collaborative first.

Before you retain a litigator, try peacemaking and see if you can save yourselves tens (or hundreds) of thousands of dollars in legal fees.

For more information, call Amicable Divorce Services at 626-351-1200.

Tuesday, August 16, 2016

Lower Costs When You Stay Out of Court

Mediation and collaborative divorce costs a small fraction of the cost of divorcing through the court and helps the children to come out of the divorce relatively unscathed. We offer free consultations to educate divorcing spouses on these options.

Call us at 626-351-1200 to schedule your consultation.